Pain??

[Surry]

Does pain have to be involved in bondage? I have always had fantasies of being dominated and restrained while getting my brains fucked out but have never found anyone of that persuasion!! Always just regular sex LOL. I find alot of these links very exciting and would like to know more.

[ego]

I guess that someone who is into bondage is not necessarilly into pain and vice-versa.

[theman]

I've started to take an interest in bondage lately, but I think it's because I like to see someone tied up, under someone else's entire control, not because I like seeing someone endure pain.

Then again, each to their own way ;p.

[Louise]

Does pain have to be involved in bondage?

A definite NO! Indeed, there is a large section of bondage enthusiasts who would shudder at that thought. Bondage, particularly rope bondage is an art form and can be beautiful in itself, but can bring a hell of an extra buzz to sex!

The desire for some form of restraint is a common fantasy amongst even the most vanilla of individuals, but the fraction of that group combining bondage with pain would be small.

It’s one thing to have your wrists bound to your ankles in elaborate roping and then fucked senseless…and an entirely different thing to be bound and say, whipped, senseless before being fucked unconscious…

It is, as always, a matter of personal choice. I happen to enjoy both the BD and SM parts of BDSM…but you may want a single element from within that…

As to finding someone to play with you along these lines…trust is the most important factor I can think of. I seriously wouldn’t recommend going out to a club and saying “hey gorgeous, fancy tying me up and having some fun?”…lol…preferably, introduce the subject slowly to an ongoing relationship. Buy books like Asian Bondage, which are filled with photos of rope bondage that few people wouldn’t find erotic to some degree. There are plenty of books and sites out there that help you with basic bondage…try talking your partner into reading or looking through them…I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t have to persuade them too hard to practice a few bondage tricks in bed later

Or…depending on where you live, there are clubs and private parties that specialise in bondage events…they can be much fun!

[Darkman]

ive always had bondage with women who are into the domination side of it more, but ive always WANTED to be with a self abusive slut!

[Stella Cadente]

My GF wants me to hurt her during sex, and who am I to say no, so sometimes pain is INVOLVED, but in no way necessary, but its REALLY good when girls love pain, if they like being abused and as said by Darkman are self abusive, then its a bonus

[somedude]

Originally Posted by Louise

Does pain have to be involved in bondage?

A definite NO! Indeed, there is a large section of bondage enthusiasts who would shudder at that thought. Bondage, particularly rope bondage is an art form and can be beautiful in itself, but can bring a hell of an extra buzz to sex!

The desire for some form of restraint is a common fantasy amongst even the most vanilla of individuals, but the fraction of that group combining bondage with pain would be small.

It’s one thing to have your wrists bound to your ankles in elaborate roping and then fucked senseless…and an entirely different thing to be bound and say, whipped, senseless before being fucked unconscious…

It is, as always, a matter of personal choice. I happen to enjoy both the BD and SM parts of BDSM…but you may want a single element from within that…

As to finding someone to play with you along these lines…trust is the most important factor I can think of. I seriously wouldn’t recommend going out to a club and saying “hey gorgeous, fancy tying me up and having some fun?”…lol…preferably, introduce the subject slowly to an ongoing relationship. Buy books like Asian Bondage, which are filled with photos of rope bondage that few people wouldn’t find erotic to some degree. There are plenty of books and sites out there that help you with basic bondage…try talking your partner into reading or looking through them…I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t have to persuade them too hard to practice a few bondage tricks in bed later

Or…depending on where you live, there are clubs and private parties that specialise in bondage events…they can be much fun!

*gets his ropes for the author of the above post*

[persiangurl]

Originally Posted by Surry

Does pain have to be involved in bondage? I have always had fantasies of being dominated and restrained while getting my brains fucked out but have never found anyone of that persuasion!! Always just regular sex LOL. I find alot of these links very exciting and would like to know more.

i like eating chicken, but ill be dammed if i had to kill it myself

[ego]

Another one who avoids pay the price for her desires......

[Surry]

Thank you all for the wonderful insight. I did explore a few of the website links I found in another post and can definately see that there is an art form to it all....with many of the "artists" known by name....so...still will have to venture forth as my current "friend" is not open to this type of play or "art" AT ALL! I live in Las Vegas....you would definately think I could find anything here I would want LOL!!

[Surry]

So "Somedude" ..... how far out west are you with those fancy ropes ??

[Surry]

Nice avitar TheMan

[ego]

Do i see some dark clouds over Vegas, or its my fantasy?

[Surry]

LOL....don't know about dark but could be wet

[persiangurl]

Originally Posted by ego

Another one who avoids pay the price for her desires......

the fuck u talkin bout?




i sure as helll paid my 5.99 for that chik-fil-A meal #5

[Ntense]

Surry, if you found the post with all of the tutorial links from massachucetts<something> then you're on the right track. If you're not into pain, skip the styles where your arms and legs are bent wrong, and play around with variations where you're mostly down on the bed/couch/whatever. Putting strain on the joints hurts a LOT after a while. A hogtie may look interesting, but it's damn uncomfortable after a while. If you can't convert pain into pleasure, then play around with the fancier stuff before trying it for a long session.

Hint: the wider the 'cuff' part of arm & leg restraint is, the less it'll hurt if you thrash around.
Mmmmmmmm - writhe and shine!

Bart! You said *pain* like it's a BAD thing... D'oh!

[RapeU]

Pain doesn't have to be involved in bondage, but it is enjoyable for me.

[Jezebel]

Find a friend who is willing to tie you up How can you not be willing to tie up and fuck?

[Surry]

Originally Posted by Ntense

If you can't convert pain into pleasure, then play around with the fancier stuff before trying it for a long session.!

I saw the sites where there is "gags" and extreme bondage and the comments are about the person bonded as getting to the point of their "eyes glazing over" .... If that a point the everyone gets too..or only if you are "open" to it....looks sexy...don't know if it is or not...must be or they wouldn't be doing it. Such frustration ...don't think I will ever find anyone to fulfill my needs.

[persiangurl]

theres no fucking way id let anybody tie me up


i dont trust anyone that much, lol