is this wrong? - Rape Board

lucy · 10-18-2007, 02:49 PM

i'm confused about how far things should be taken. I hate letting guys have me. I hate it. I lead guys on a lot so they end up taking advantage of me. I turn them on as much as possible like kissing them on the bed for ages and rub my hip against them until they start undressing me but then i say stop but carry on physically as if i want it. i make them see how much i want it but tell them no until they can't stop themselves which has happened a few times now. i just don't know how wrong i'm being.. i can't let guys think i really want it it would be like giving into them. and then i don't know if i made them do it. did i force them to force me? is this really wrong? i don't know i'm sorry i'm so confused.

ego · 10-18-2007, 03:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lucy

i can't let guys think i really want it it would be like giving into them.

and then i don't know if i made them do it. did i force them to force me?

is this really wrong? i don't know i'm sorry i'm so confused.

What is bad with giving into someone you like?

Of course you force them. And you know that well. Thats why you do it, isnt it?

Yes its wrong. You actually are accessory and instigator of a crime. The fact the victim of the crime is you does not changes that.
You could simply explain them the way you like it. Or arrange a safe word. Have you thought of the chance someone goes more than you really want ?

menace · 10-18-2007, 03:48 PM

Well, it's the wrong way of doing things. You seem to want sex, but have some kind of psychic barrier in your mind. Legally, what happened when the continued despite you saying no is rape, and he could be convicted based on that. But (going by what you said here) you wanted it so it's not wrong I guess... who am I to tell?

What you should do is sort yourself out. See a theraphist if you have to. As Ego said, it's not fair putting guys into that kind of situation and you are risking your own neck as well.

GOATBOY · 10-18-2007, 04:00 PM

do you know what lucy. I think we have met. I met a girl called lucy who was just like that. she would be all passionate but never got to even second base.

Maybe I should of been more assertive. because from what I remember, you did have a hot body.

my dark side · 10-18-2007, 04:03 PM

Yes it is wrong. You are at risk of having one of the guys not only go along with you but also continue what he may think is just doing what you want where as you could really be asking him to stop. Unless you wanna risk getting raped for real, i would suggest that you stop your way of going about it and perhaps just plan something out, make it into an RP with a safe word.

Take steps to stay safe while having fun.

lucy · 10-18-2007, 04:30 PM

if i explain to them then i know they know that i actually do want it but i only get horny if they think i'm sweet and innocent. It's really strange.

I don't say no and then carry on to sleep with them. i say no until they force me. which obviously doesn't normally happen so i don't normally have sex. but 3 times now the guys have carried on anyway. and even though i'm hating it i love it at the same time it's the only way i can have sex. i did used to have a boyfriend but when we slept together i'd cry afterwards.
i suppose i wish i could change my mindset about it. doesn't anyone else do that here or have the same issues with sex??

and hmm goatboy i don't know i'm from london.

GOATBOY · 10-18-2007, 04:55 PM

well so am I. were you orignally from cantebury and dropped by essex one day when you visited a drama school.

lucy · 10-18-2007, 04:59 PM

lol no but i am at drama school!

GOATBOY · 10-18-2007, 05:03 PM

age?

lucy · 10-18-2007, 05:17 PM

19

MADDOGMCMANAMAN · 10-18-2007, 08:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lucy

i'm confused about how far things should be taken. I hate letting guys have me. I hate it. I lead guys on a lot so they end up taking advantage of me. I turn them on as much as possible like kissing them on the bed for ages and rub my hip against them until they start undressing me but then i say stop but carry on physically as if i want it. i make them see how much i want it but tell them no until they can't stop themselves which has happened a few times now. i just don't know how wrong i'm being.. i can't let guys think i really want it it would be like giving into them. and then i don't know if i made them do it. did i force them to force me? is this really wrong? i don't know i'm sorry i'm so confused.

once i unleash the magic finger on you - all these thoughts will vanish from your mind like they never ever existed and you will BEG me to fuck you like it was the end of days !!!!

MADDOGMCMANAMAN · 10-18-2007, 08:23 PM

p.s. - can i *ahem* we see your tits now ??

lucy · 10-18-2007, 09:15 PM

how do i put a photo up???

lucy · 10-19-2007, 08:32 AM

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wolf3591 · 10-19-2007, 09:27 AM

Very nice pic

10-19-2007, 12:51 PM

Hmm think Sternenlied answer to this would be a good one to look out for since psychology is her field of expertise ...Stern, stern?

I will post my thoughts abit later when i have more time.

lucy · 10-24-2007, 08:02 PM

thank you everyone for your thoughts

MADDOGMCMANAMAN · 10-24-2007, 09:45 PM

er.. i must have been asleep for i missed the pic lucy - would appreciate a repost !!

*wink wink big gorgeous smile*

MarcEdeSade · 10-27-2007, 09:48 PM

I'll let you in on a hypothetical secret...

one of these men went on to do the same thing with their next date...but she meant it...now she is in counseling and he's on the sex offender list.

so....given that hypothetical piece of knowledge...was it wrong?

lucy · 10-28-2007, 12:36 PM

10-18-2007, 02:49 PM	#1
lucy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 22 Reputation: 10	is this wrong? i'm confused about how far things should be taken. I hate letting guys have me. I hate it. I lead guys on a lot so they end up taking advantage of me. I turn them on as much as possible like kissing them on the bed for ages and rub my hip against them until they start undressing me but then i say stop but carry on physically as if i want it. i make them see how much i want it but tell them no until they can't stop themselves which has happened a few times now. i just don't know how wrong i'm being.. i can't let guys think i really want it it would be like giving into them. and then i don't know if i made them do it. did i force them to force me? is this really wrong? i don't know i'm sorry i'm so confused.

10-18-2007, 03:48 PM	#3
menace Privileged Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Who knows? Posts: 2,436 Reputation: 26964	Well, it's the wrong way of doing things. You seem to want sex, but have some kind of psychic barrier in your mind. Legally, what happened when the continued despite you saying no is rape, and he could be convicted based on that. But (going by what you said here) you wanted it so it's not wrong I guess... who am I to tell? What you should do is sort yourself out. See a theraphist if you have to. As Ego said, it's not fair putting guys into that kind of situation and you are risking your own neck as well. __________________ Try and stop me

10-18-2007, 04:00 PM	#4
GOATBOY Privileged Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: london uk Posts: 627 Reputation: 4793	do you know what lucy. I think we have met. I met a girl called lucy who was just like that. she would be all passionate but never got to even second base. Maybe I should of been more assertive. because from what I remember, you did have a hot body. __________________ HAPPINESS IS A DRY PUSSY

10-18-2007, 04:55 PM	#7
GOATBOY Privileged Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: london uk Posts: 627 Reputation: 4793	well so am I. were you orignally from cantebury and dropped by essex one day when you visited a drama school. __________________ HAPPINESS IS A DRY PUSSY

10-18-2007, 05:03 PM	#9
GOATBOY Privileged Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: london uk Posts: 627 Reputation: 4793	age? __________________ HAPPINESS IS A DRY PUSSY

10-18-2007, 04:03 PM	#5
my dark side Banned Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Away from here Posts: 2,038 Reputation: 1051	Yes it is wrong. You are at risk of having one of the guys not only go along with you but also continue what he may think is just doing what you want where as you could really be asking him to stop. Unless you wanna risk getting raped for real, i would suggest that you stop your way of going about it and perhaps just plan something out, make it into an RP with a safe word. Take steps to stay safe while having fun.

10-18-2007, 04:30 PM	#6
lucy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 22 Reputation: 10	if i explain to them then i know they know that i actually do want it but i only get horny if they think i'm sweet and innocent. It's really strange. I don't say no and then carry on to sleep with them. i say no until they force me. which obviously doesn't normally happen so i don't normally have sex. but 3 times now the guys have carried on anyway. and even though i'm hating it i love it at the same time it's the only way i can have sex. i did used to have a boyfriend but when we slept together i'd cry afterwards. i suppose i wish i could change my mindset about it. doesn't anyone else do that here or have the same issues with sex?? and hmm goatboy i don't know i'm from london.

10-18-2007, 04:59 PM	#8
lucy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 22 Reputation: 10	lol no but i am at drama school!

10-18-2007, 05:17 PM	#10
lucy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 22 Reputation: 10	19

10-18-2007, 08:23 PM	#12
MADDOGMCMANAMAN PUSSYCRUSHER Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: YOUR MOMMAS HOUSE Posts: 2,161 Reputation: 9875	p.s. - can i ahem we see your tits now ?? __________________ The Original PUSSYCRUSHER !!

10-18-2007, 09:15 PM	#13
lucy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 22 Reputation: 10	how do i put a photo up???

10-19-2007, 08:32 AM	#14
lucy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 22 Reputation: 10	. Last edited by lucy; 10-21-2007 at 12:05 PM.

10-19-2007, 09:27 AM	#15
wolf3591 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Midlands,UK Posts: 5 Reputation: 15	Very nice pic

10-19-2007, 12:51 PM	#16
clan_hunter Guest Posts: n/a	Hmm think Sternenlied answer to this would be a good one to look out for since psychology is her field of expertise ...Stern, stern? I will post my thoughts abit later when i have more time.

10-24-2007, 08:02 PM	#17
lucy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 22 Reputation: 10	thank you everyone for your thoughts

10-24-2007, 09:45 PM	#18
MADDOGMCMANAMAN PUSSYCRUSHER Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: YOUR MOMMAS HOUSE Posts: 2,161 Reputation: 9875	er.. i must have been asleep for i missed the pic lucy - would appreciate a repost !! wink wink big gorgeous smile __________________ The Original PUSSYCRUSHER !!

10-27-2007, 09:48 PM	#19
MarcEdeSade Amoralist Libertine Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 391 Reputation: 1262	I'll let you in on a hypothetical secret... one of these men went on to do the same thing with their next date...but she meant it...now she is in counseling and he's on the sex offender list. so....given that hypothetical piece of knowledge...was it wrong? __________________ Pain is inevitable....suffering is optional

10-28-2007, 12:36 PM	#20
lucy Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 22 Reputation: 10

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