Ever Feel Shame? (I don't) - Rape Board

sadohedonist · 12-27-2014, 11:47 AM

Always in movies and books if a character is in some way sadistic, unless they're the villain, they feel ashamed and embarrassed about those desires. (ditto for masochists sometimes)
I've been a sadist since before I even had a sex drive. it's always been innate to me and there was never any other way I could be sexually. I've never felt any kind of self conscious or ashamed feeling for this at all.
I used to study psychology in my free time and I came across a passage in a book about sexuality that said sadists never feel ashamed of what they are if they're genuinely a sadist.
Is this true of everyone else? Answer me for the other direction too, those of you who are into being victims.

missy_kaitlyn · 12-27-2014, 05:45 PM

My BF is a sadist. He felt a bit nervous about it...not ashamed or embarassed...but nervous of how I would view him when I found out (ie: think he was some sort of abusive asshole and leave him). So when he realized that I understood that was just how he was and he wasn't doing it maliciously, it led to a lot of great times in bed

It also helped that I enjoy being a victim, I've always felt more submissive than anything. I remember as a kid hearing stories about girls who were kidnapped etc., and they didn't really turn me on, but there was a part of me that got a bit...excited I guess.

Ballbreaker · 12-29-2014, 07:12 AM

I don't feel guilty at all, why would I? to me it's a part of me the same as anything else in my personality, I don't think anyone who has pure vanilla thoughts or sex to be wrong so why should I feel bad for having edgier kinkier thoughts.

At the end of the day it's my sexual make up and I don't live with it - I embrace it.

12-27-2014, 11:47 AM	#1
sadohedonist Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 21 Reputation: 1172	Ever Feel Shame? (I don't) Always in movies and books if a character is in some way sadistic, unless they're the villain, they feel ashamed and embarrassed about those desires. (ditto for masochists sometimes) I've been a sadist since before I even had a sex drive. it's always been innate to me and there was never any other way I could be sexually. I've never felt any kind of self conscious or ashamed feeling for this at all. I used to study psychology in my free time and I came across a passage in a book about sexuality that said sadists never feel ashamed of what they are if they're genuinely a sadist. Is this true of everyone else? Answer me for the other direction too, those of you who are into being victims.

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12-27-2014, 05:45 PM	#2
missy_kaitlyn Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2013 Posts: 12 Reputation: 140	My BF is a sadist. He felt a bit nervous about it...not ashamed or embarassed...but nervous of how I would view him when I found out (ie: think he was some sort of abusive asshole and leave him). So when he realized that I understood that was just how he was and he wasn't doing it maliciously, it led to a lot of great times in bed It also helped that I enjoy being a victim, I've always felt more submissive than anything. I remember as a kid hearing stories about girls who were kidnapped etc., and they didn't really turn me on, but there was a part of me that got a bit...excited I guess.

12-29-2014, 07:12 AM	#3
Ballbreaker Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2014 Location: In a sex dungeon Posts: 9 Reputation: 10	I don't feel guilty at all, why would I? to me it's a part of me the same as anything else in my personality, I don't think anyone who has pure vanilla thoughts or sex to be wrong so why should I feel bad for having edgier kinkier thoughts. At the end of the day it's my sexual make up and I don't live with it - I embrace it.