Who is out of the closet? - Rape Board

Mansun · 08-26-2008, 12:39 PM

Hey guys, just thought I'd bring up something to talk about, I don't know if this has been brought up before, I apologize if it has I'm new to the board.

Anyways, seeing our morbid fascination with rape and all of its subsequent variants -snuff, monsters, superheroines, as something usually frowned upon by your average everyday society, how do you cope?

As in, is it out there for all your friends and family to see? Or is it hidden in the closet and only your closest confidants know about it? Does anybody know at all? We're all obviously in the same boat here, so I was just wondering.

As for me only my closest friends know about it. Least they trust me enough, or know me well enough to know that I don't go around raping women. I used to role-play my ex and she used to dig it as well. Well, thats how I do things anyways, for moral and religious reasons, my fascination is still mainly in the closet. What about you guys?

Do tell

Nemesis2008 · 08-26-2008, 01:00 PM

I am new here too, and have always been in the closet about this rape bondage fascination I have. I've been married for 28 years, and while my wife has found a couple of pieces of (porn evidence) I do lead a double life keeping my personal desires to myself. I have only one friend who knows I like this kind of entertainment, and thats because he is internet saavy, and for a while supplied me with a few cd's (early days) and recently a dvd or two once in a while.

Basically I have always enjoyed 'imaginary/role play' rape and forced sex, and have no desire to hurt or force any human being in any way. Just like horror, gore, violent crime films, etc... I love to see bad guys shot to hell by good guys, but again, I have no desire to be in that situation.

I live a double life that I find exciting at times, maybe a bit risky (reputation related) but it relieves my stress, and makes life a bit more fun at times.

I will say though that the more time I spend on this 'taboo' (for lack of a better term) increases my risk of getting busted if I get sloppy with my computer file storage and security. Maybe that's part of the excitement as well, who knows..

I am in the closet, and always plan to be...

sexybbw · 08-26-2008, 02:12 PM

Hi Guys,

I have to admit that I am in the closet also. I have told my hubby about my fantasies, and God love him, he has tried to role play it with me, but he is just to gentle a soul for this.

I have talked to one or two people online about this, but they did not know who I was and only one of the two seemed to be interested but he only wanted to cyber. I never heard from him again.

I find rape fantasy very exciting and have fantasized about it for years. I wish it was more accepted in our society, but since it is not, I will hide in the closet with my friends on this board.

Nemesis2008 · 08-26-2008, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by sexybbw

Hi Guys,

I have to admit that I am in the closet also. I have told my hubby about my fantasies, and God love him, he has tried to role play it with me, but he is just to gentle a soul for this.

I have talked to one or two people online about this, but they did not know who I was and only one of the two seemed to be interested but he only wanted to cyber. I never heard from him again.

I find rape fantasy very exciting and have fantasized about it for years. I wish it was more accepted in our society, but since it is not, I will hide in the closet with my friends on this board.

Exactly...

I 'tried' to tell my wife several times over the years in very 'subtle' ways about certain (or any for that matter) fantasies, but it didn't go well. We just view sex and sexuality differently.

"Why oh why didn't I take the blue pill?"

I admittedly had an affair some years back and found that she (other woman) was not only receptive to the fantasy 'forced sex' idea, but was turned on by it. It lasted about 6 months, and it was the most fun I've had as a physical, sexual person.

I do not search for that type of thing now, (think about it in fun fleeting thoughts sometimes) but will always cherish the memory that at least I got to experience it for a short time in life.

I too wish it was more accepted in our seemingly hypocritical society, where people with power and wealth lie through their teeth daily about morality, values, etc..

I guess I am living a lie being "in the closet", but that's my choice.

Mansun · 08-26-2008, 06:00 PM

Well I remember the time I had told my ex about my fascination. She wasn't too pleased, looking back I found the whole incident funny. After she had cooled down though, she started asking me about it.

Why this and why that. Don't you know its wrong? Well 'duh' woman.

After she absorbed that aspect of me and after numerous times of saying "I don't know why it turns me on, it just...does", it became a normal and accepted facet of our relationship, though only we two knew about it. And we learned to work around it and play with it. She loved being strangled for some reason.

I understand Nemesis's views, as I'm sure everyone else here might. Thank God for Rapeboard :P.

But if you don't mind me asking Nemesis, how come you never talked about it with her before you married her? I don't mean to be rude, just that for me, I consider it a big thing that my life partner understands my sexual desires as much as I understand hers, so I do plan on coming out of the closet with that person. I hope that whoever that girl might be can accept this about me...or risk losing her permanently. Or maybe its wiser to not let her know? I don't know, which is why I'm asking. Again, sorry if I'm overstepping my boundaries.

It is risky letting people know about it. I'm from a distinguished family so its not just my reputation at stake here.

And sexybbw, hat's off to your gentle hubby for trying. We should all be so lucky.

Ragman · 08-27-2008, 03:13 AM

I am "out" i guess, at least to my wife. I am sure i have been careless and left my porn in an easy to find file oce or twice but thats about it. its not that I am ashamed of it... I don't think there is anythign wrong with it.. the reason most people who know me don't know is.... when would it come up in conversation? "hey nice new car.. By the way I am totally in to forced sex Role play" The relationships i have had that have reached a sexual level.. all knew i had the fantasy,some were into it, some were not. I don't see a point in hiding when i am doing nothing wrong

I will admit to having a slight trepidation about telling my wife about it when we were dating though. Something was different, it was strange but i was more nervouse telling her than I had been telling others in the past

Uncle Al · 08-27-2008, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Ragman

I am "out" i guess, at least to my wife. I am sure i have been careless and left my porn in an easy to find file oce or twice but thats about it. its not that I am ashamed of it...

Yes, that's right, a human been have the right to choice to do and live like He or She wants.

Congratulations!

ralph wiggum · 08-27-2008, 04:08 PM

I am also pretty much in the closet. I never told anyone about my rape fantasies except for two of my girl friends. And i only spoke with them about it because i wanted to make sure they would not find out by chance and then think i somehow deceived them. I have a complete sexual double life. In real life i am into vanilla sex and not even interested in roleplay but in my sexual fantasies i am into forced sex.
By the way one of those girlfriends could not tolerate my fantasies and so this had been one of the major reasons to break up with me after my "coming out". The other one accepted it even though she could not understand it.

Alexk272727 · 08-27-2008, 04:21 PM

I don't think rape fantasy is something you tell to your friends or other people in general. I am still not certain weather it is a healthy thing or not, but I have had the desire since puberty I believe when I started lusting after the girls in school. I generally try to supress it, but watching the rape fantasy movies is a way to let out a lot of frustrations in life for me without actually hurting other people so for me I find it to be a somewhat good thing.

at946 · 08-28-2008, 04:32 AM

It's never bothered me, but then I was in my prime during the 60's and 70's .Some thought I was a bit odd but then everbody has kinks ,as I found out in bed .
It's like the old ,"If I don't like your Erotica I will denounce it as Pornography".

MADDOGMCMANAMAN · 08-28-2008, 11:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sexybbw

Hi Guys,

I have to admit that I am in the closet also. I have told my hubby about my fantasies, and God love him, he has tried to role play it with me, but he is just to gentle a soul for this.

I have talked to one or two people online about this, but they did not know who I was and only one of the two seemed to be interested but he only wanted to cyber. I never heard from him again.

I find rape fantasy very exciting and have fantasized about it for years. I wish it was more accepted in our society, but since it is not, I will hide in the closet with my friends on this board.

rrrrrrrrrrrrr that closet sound like a nice place to me lmao !!

sexybbw · 08-28-2008, 12:50 PM

You are bad MADDOGMCMANAMAN!!!

But I like it.

Mansun · 08-30-2008, 06:37 PM

Lol

TZOFOSHO · 08-30-2008, 09:40 PM

i'm in the closet for the most part, the only people who know are close friends who have either found myself, or who i have drunkenly told. Whats funny about the people i told drunk they're my two best friends, and anytime we drink and they make a joke about 'takin a bitch', i laugh awkwardly because i can't remember if i told them. Whats crazy is that i think i talked more openly about my fantasies when i was in highschool, i only started hiding it when i got to college.

like alex i also wonder if the fantasies are healthy, and as a result have never told a girlfriend about them

Psionic_X · 09-03-2008, 06:38 PM

I play with erotic hypnosis and a regular hypnotic scenario I use is rape. Now I do this as if its just fantasy and don't let on how much I enjoy that fantasy with the women I roleplay with...since its hypnosis, they think I just dig the hypnosis and am trying different scenarios. Beyond that, a couple of my best buds know...thats it.

lioness · 09-03-2008, 08:21 PM

Yes, I am too ashamed to admit it to my friends and I don't talk about sex with family either, but rape fantasy is such a major part of my sexual personality that I can't imagine keeping this secret from my partner for my entire life. I have told my 'vanilla-loving' husband about my fantasy, and we have played together on occasion in the past but I don't suppose it would be quite the same as being married to someone with the same fantasy as me, who wants to use me, abuse me, and punish me sexually on a regular basis. I imagine it would be quite a hot and sexy love life. But, I've made my marriage choice, I mean, you don't exactly ask a guy about that on a first date, do you?

Still, I don't think the fantasy is unhealthy at all unless you take it to extremes like snuff, etc. and as long as u keep it fantasy its fine.

mysterious-sexism · 09-05-2008, 01:28 PM

I don't think we're so much in the minority as we're thought to be. I think it's sad, because repression of fantasies and healthy sexual thoughts, leads to real rape and real people end up suffering.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mansun

Hey guys, just thought I'd bring up something to talk about, I don't know if this has been brought up before, I apologize if it has I'm new to the board.

Anyways, seeing our morbid fascination with rape and all of its subsequent variants -snuff, monsters, superheroines, as something usually frowned upon by your average everyday society, how do you cope?

As in, is it out there for all your friends and family to see? Or is it hidden in the closet and only your closest confidants know about it? Does anybody know at all? We're all obviously in the same boat here, so I was just wondering.

As for me only my closest friends know about it. Least they trust me enough, or know me well enough to know that I don't go around raping women. I used to role-play my ex and she used to dig it as well. Well, thats how I do things anyways, for moral and religious reasons, my fascination is still mainly in the closet. What about you guys?

Do tell

Mansun · 09-06-2008, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by TZOFOSHO

i'm in the closet for the most part, the only people who know are close friends who have either found myself, or who i have drunkenly told. Whats funny about the people i told drunk they're my two best friends, and anytime we drink and they make a joke about 'takin a bitch', i laugh awkwardly because i can't remember if i told them. Whats crazy is that i think i talked more openly about my fantasies when i was in highschool, i only started hiding it when i got to college.

like alex i also wonder if the fantasies are healthy, and as a result have never told a girlfriend about them

Whoah, I gots to be careful when I drink. Man that sounds awkward.

No its definitely not a subject you'd want to bring up on the first date, I don't think "I'm into rape, what about you" is a very good ice-breaker. But from what I can tell, judging from the responses thus far, women have an easier time with this fascination then men. It's just observation, not sure if it's true

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MrRapy · 09-07-2008, 02:47 PM

I'm halfway, since I joke a lot....

shelley · 09-07-2008, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Mansun

I'm new to the board.

me too.

anyway, about the closet thing. i agree with ragman. it usually doesn't come up in conversations. and if it doesn't for you, most likely it doesn't for the person you are talking to. i find that if you are somewhat overt about sex talk people will confess the strangest things. open up little by little and i am almost sure you won't be disappointed...

08-26-2008, 12:39 PM	#1
Mansun Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Middle of Nowhere Posts: 24 Reputation: 10	Who is out of the closet? Hey guys, just thought I'd bring up something to talk about, I don't know if this has been brought up before, I apologize if it has I'm new to the board. Anyways, seeing our morbid fascination with rape and all of its subsequent variants -snuff, monsters, superheroines, as something usually frowned upon by your average everyday society, how do you cope? As in, is it out there for all your friends and family to see? Or is it hidden in the closet and only your closest confidants know about it? Does anybody know at all? We're all obviously in the same boat here, so I was just wondering. As for me only my closest friends know about it. Least they trust me enough, or know me well enough to know that I don't go around raping women. I used to role-play my ex and she used to dig it as well. Well, thats how I do things anyways, for moral and religious reasons, my fascination is still mainly in the closet. What about you guys? Do tell __________________ Better that we embrace our darkness, And learn to to control it. Then us denying its existence, And risk it controlling us.

08-26-2008, 06:00 PM	#5
Mansun Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Middle of Nowhere Posts: 24 Reputation: 10	Well I remember the time I had told my ex about my fascination. She wasn't too pleased, looking back I found the whole incident funny. After she had cooled down though, she started asking me about it. Why this and why that. Don't you know its wrong? Well 'duh' woman. After she absorbed that aspect of me and after numerous times of saying "I don't know why it turns me on, it just...does", it became a normal and accepted facet of our relationship, though only we two knew about it. And we learned to work around it and play with it. She loved being strangled for some reason. I understand Nemesis's views, as I'm sure everyone else here might. Thank God for Rapeboard :P. But if you don't mind me asking Nemesis, how come you never talked about it with her before you married her? I don't mean to be rude, just that for me, I consider it a big thing that my life partner understands my sexual desires as much as I understand hers, so I do plan on coming out of the closet with that person. I hope that whoever that girl might be can accept this about me...or risk losing her permanently. Or maybe its wiser to not let her know? I don't know, which is why I'm asking. Again, sorry if I'm overstepping my boundaries. It is risky letting people know about it. I'm from a distinguished family so its not just my reputation at stake here. And sexybbw, hat's off to your gentle hubby for trying. We should all be so lucky. __________________ Better that we embrace our darkness, And learn to to control it. Then us denying its existence, And risk it controlling us.

08-27-2008, 03:13 AM	#6
Ragman Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: an alley near you Posts: 2,226 Reputation: 5535	I am "out" i guess, at least to my wife. I am sure i have been careless and left my porn in an easy to find file oce or twice but thats about it. its not that I am ashamed of it... I don't think there is anythign wrong with it.. the reason most people who know me don't know is.... when would it come up in conversation? "hey nice new car.. By the way I am totally in to forced sex Role play" The relationships i have had that have reached a sexual level.. all knew i had the fantasy,some were into it, some were not. I don't see a point in hiding when i am doing nothing wrong I will admit to having a slight trepidation about telling my wife about it when we were dating though. Something was different, it was strange but i was more nervouse telling her than I had been telling others in the past __________________ "Aww He's just a silly, dirty little man. What's to be afraid of ?" 2

08-30-2008, 06:37 PM	#13
Mansun Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Middle of Nowhere Posts: 24 Reputation: 10	Lol __________________ Better that we embrace our darkness, And learn to to control it. Then us denying its existence, And risk it controlling us.

08-30-2008, 09:40 PM	#14
TZOFOSHO Hardest E-thug around Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 970 Reputation: 38545	i'm in the closet for the most part, the only people who know are close friends who have either found myself, or who i have drunkenly told. Whats funny about the people i told drunk they're my two best friends, and anytime we drink and they make a joke about 'takin a bitch', i laugh awkwardly because i can't remember if i told them. Whats crazy is that i think i talked more openly about my fantasies when i was in highschool, i only started hiding it when i got to college. like alex i also wonder if the fantasies are healthy, and as a result have never told a girlfriend about them __________________ I'm a drunken fool...

08-26-2008, 01:00 PM	#2
Nemesis2008 Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Northern Midwest Posts: 42 Reputation: 45	I am new here too, and have always been in the closet about this rape bondage fascination I have. I've been married for 28 years, and while my wife has found a couple of pieces of (porn evidence) I do lead a double life keeping my personal desires to myself. I have only one friend who knows I like this kind of entertainment, and thats because he is internet saavy, and for a while supplied me with a few cd's (early days) and recently a dvd or two once in a while. Basically I have always enjoyed 'imaginary/role play' rape and forced sex, and have no desire to hurt or force any human being in any way. Just like horror, gore, violent crime films, etc... I love to see bad guys shot to hell by good guys, but again, I have no desire to be in that situation. I live a double life that I find exciting at times, maybe a bit risky (reputation related) but it relieves my stress, and makes life a bit more fun at times. I will say though that the more time I spend on this 'taboo' (for lack of a better term) increases my risk of getting busted if I get sloppy with my computer file storage and security. Maybe that's part of the excitement as well, who knows.. I am in the closet, and always plan to be...

08-26-2008, 02:12 PM	#3
sexybbw Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 11 Reputation: 10	Hi Guys, I have to admit that I am in the closet also. I have told my hubby about my fantasies, and God love him, he has tried to role play it with me, but he is just to gentle a soul for this. I have talked to one or two people online about this, but they did not know who I was and only one of the two seemed to be interested but he only wanted to cyber. I never heard from him again. I find rape fantasy very exciting and have fantasized about it for years. I wish it was more accepted in our society, but since it is not, I will hide in the closet with my friends on this board.

08-27-2008, 04:08 PM	#8
ralph wiggum Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 129 Reputation: 474	I am also pretty much in the closet. I never told anyone about my rape fantasies except for two of my girl friends. And i only spoke with them about it because i wanted to make sure they would not find out by chance and then think i somehow deceived them. I have a complete sexual double life. In real life i am into vanilla sex and not even interested in roleplay but in my sexual fantasies i am into forced sex. By the way one of those girlfriends could not tolerate my fantasies and so this had been one of the major reasons to break up with me after my "coming out". The other one accepted it even though she could not understand it.

08-27-2008, 04:21 PM	#9
Alexk272727 Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 17 Reputation: 10	I don't think rape fantasy is something you tell to your friends or other people in general. I am still not certain weather it is a healthy thing or not, but I have had the desire since puberty I believe when I started lusting after the girls in school. I generally try to supress it, but watching the rape fantasy movies is a way to let out a lot of frustrations in life for me without actually hurting other people so for me I find it to be a somewhat good thing.

08-28-2008, 04:32 AM	#10
at946 Privileged Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Australia Posts: 188 Reputation: 10276	It's never bothered me, but then I was in my prime during the 60's and 70's .Some thought I was a bit odd but then everbody has kinks ,as I found out in bed . It's like the old ,"If I don't like your Erotica I will denounce it as Pornography".

08-28-2008, 12:50 PM	#12
sexybbw Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 11 Reputation: 10	You are bad MADDOGMCMANAMAN!!! But I like it.

09-03-2008, 06:38 PM	#15
Psionic_X Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 19 Reputation: 29	I play with erotic hypnosis and a regular hypnotic scenario I use is rape. Now I do this as if its just fantasy and don't let on how much I enjoy that fantasy with the women I roleplay with...since its hypnosis, they think I just dig the hypnosis and am trying different scenarios. Beyond that, a couple of my best buds know...thats it.

09-03-2008, 08:21 PM	#16
lioness Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: somewhere in north america Posts: 47 Reputation: 210	Yes, I am too ashamed to admit it to my friends and I don't talk about sex with family either, but rape fantasy is such a major part of my sexual personality that I can't imagine keeping this secret from my partner for my entire life. I have told my 'vanilla-loving' husband about my fantasy, and we have played together on occasion in the past but I don't suppose it would be quite the same as being married to someone with the same fantasy as me, who wants to use me, abuse me, and punish me sexually on a regular basis. I imagine it would be quite a hot and sexy love life. But, I've made my marriage choice, I mean, you don't exactly ask a guy about that on a first date, do you? Still, I don't think the fantasy is unhealthy at all unless you take it to extremes like snuff, etc. and as long as u keep it fantasy its fine. __________________ Just know that these things will never change for us at all.

09-07-2008, 02:47 PM	#19
MrRapy Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 4 Reputation: 10	I'm halfway, since I joke a lot....