Actual rape? - Page 2 - Rape Board

Brutalessons · 04-26-2007, 07:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tanya

Er..I think that would be quite a dangerous assumption actually....SO you saying women should just meet any pereson from thsi website and trust them...i dont think so...

Of couurse you should Tanya, we are all just mis-understood folks and the only way to truly get to know and trust us is a personal upfront meeting....
What did you say your home address and phone # were?

/Sarcasm/

Sternenlied · 04-26-2007, 07:42 AM

Well, although rape statistics throughout the world (varying country to country of course) are quite alarming you have to put them in relation to the world's population. And even incorporating the dark figure of unreported rape incidents it's still pretty safe to assume that most men are not rapists.
Of course it doesn't mean everybody's a safe person to be around, staying wary isn't the worst course of action - especially not on the internet - but always being afraid and paranoid isn't going to get you anywhere as well.
Also we should always keep in mind that many men (even when they're on a rape fantasy site) might feel really offended when one suspects them of being a rapist. So fair's fair - I really don't think our members (at least most of them) aren't any danger to the public, let alone potential rapists.
Maybe there are real rapists or maybe potential rapists lurking around, maybe some of them are even members but that's something we can't change. We're not doing backround checks on every member and guests, so we just have to live with that possibility, let's be real about that. If you feel endangered by that you should leave.

And what's the trouble?
IF somebody confessed to being a real rapist he'd be banned immediately without second thoughts, true or not. And if it wasn't true this person could only be considered really stupid.

Next thing's this:
Nobody told anybody to just go and meet people from the website, people you never met, people you don't really know. That decision is up to every single member to make for himself. And even if somebody told you to it'd still be your decision. So use your common sense!

By the way: Rapists usually like porn - so of course some might be drawn to our movie collection - they're not really into stories, RP and posting on a board. They're into porn movies and pictures. Statistically rapists/potential rapists (who use the internet) prefer to hang out at places (forums or chatrooms) where they can approach easy prey (usually child's forums).

sindyloo · 04-26-2007, 12:18 PM

Really good points STERN dear!!

Mostly rapists hang out where they think they will get victims and they are not so damn stupid as the people that go to porn sites and log on there!!

Try this to see HOW WELL WATCHED YOU ARE!! Goggle your handle and click search you might be shocked at how much of you is out there and what you look for!?

sindyloo · 04-26-2007, 12:21 PM

deleted wrong thread!!

DominUncle · 04-27-2007, 10:21 AM

Early on in my internet experiences I met a sweet young thing who told me a scary story. She was a sub, extremely so, and into more pain than I cared to administer. She was used to being left beaten and bruised after a session with someone she met irl after contacting him on line. But one time even her expectations were exceeded. She didn't mind so much that as soon as he got her alone in the seedy hotel room he punched her jaw hard enough to make her woozy. She didn't even really mind that he pulled he jeans down and took her butt roughly, although her preference was for protection when done by strangers. What surpassed her expectations that when he was done he left her hands and ankles tied and a plastic bag wrapped around her head before he left. She was smart enough to bite a hole in it and knock the phone off the bed so someone came to investigate. She was encouraged not to make any trouble and she probably wouldn't have reported it anyway - kind of embarrassing telling authorities why she was there.

I suppose she could have been feeding me a line, but I never caught her in any other lies in the years that I knew her. I'm sure many of our members, especially female, have even more harrowing stories. So, yeah, it would be very dangerous to assume there are no real rapists here. I guess anyone with a desire for the things we talk about here needs to learn to protect themselves whenever meeting anyone, no matter where they first met or how "safe" the partner seems to be.

Tanya · 04-28-2007, 11:25 AM

Many guys who are into this fantasy hate women...

I had a similar situation to that girl. I met a guy online and he bashed me up and fucked me hard enough to make me bleed and i went home on the train with a concussion and my clothes ripped up and people kept asking if i was ok

Met other dodgy guys online too...there are many dodgy ugys out there

Becka · 04-28-2007, 11:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tanya

Many guys who are into this fantasy hate women...

I had a similar situation to that girl. I met a guy online and he bashed me up and fucked me hard enough to make me bleed and i went home on the train with a concussion and my clothes ripped up and people kept asking if i was ok

Met other dodgy guys online too...there are many dodgy ugys out there

I guess my question is why meet guys online then?

B.

Tanya · 04-28-2007, 01:16 PM

I met somoene first online because i wanted to do the roleplay, then i went crazy fora few months and met guys i didnt know....

Andering REDDSON · 04-28-2007, 10:20 PM

On this tangentâ€¦
Should you consider to actually meet ANYONE you know only from the internet, phone calls, etc, especially for an intense encounter (such as sex), you should probably arrange to meet them in a VERY PUBLIC place (such as a restaurant) where a great number of people would be nearby, AND NO ALCHOL IS PRESENT. (Ya, that means you canâ€™t meet for a beer the first time either.)
Bring verifiable ID and a business card or something else with you vital info on it. Exchange that, then meet again a few days later for the real fun. If something should happen, thereâ€™s a real, verifiable trail to what the fuck happened to you.

tnc4fun · 04-29-2007, 02:14 AM

You should also let someone else know that you're meeting someone. You should arrange to call that person at some predetermined point in the evening. Then let whoever you're meeting know that you're expected to call.

Nothing's 100%, but a little caution is certainly worth it.

Brutalessons · 04-29-2007, 08:15 AM

these are all good points, would anyone be interested in a thread discussing actual set up protocols?
Kind of rules of thumbs to ensure the safety of ravisher/ravishee as well as ways to find and discuss the common threads of the participants fantasy so the play is able to proceed without inadvertently tripping unforseen limits or exceeding bounds?

In an earlier posting I made a comment relating, in a general way to the age of participants and I was duly chastised, and rightly I suppose, due to such a broad generalization.

If there is an interest in this topic, I will try to set up the thread. Ideas for an appropriate board section for this discussion?

Edited to include link to thread: http://www.rapeboard.com/showthread.php?t=6180

Tanya · 04-29-2007, 09:02 AM

haha, i was very stupid..meeting a guy after chatting for an hour

i admit it..perfect example of how NOT to meet a guy online

Andering REDDSON · 04-29-2007, 06:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brutalessons

these are all good points, would anyone be interested in a thread discussing actual set up protocols?

Various attempts at that have been done from time to time, but we end up losing interest.

04-26-2007, 07:42 AM	#22
Sternenlied Unknown Entity Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Niflheim Posts: 2,427 Reputation: 77819	Well, although rape statistics throughout the world (varying country to country of course) are quite alarming you have to put them in relation to the world's population. And even incorporating the dark figure of unreported rape incidents it's still pretty safe to assume that most men are not rapists. Of course it doesn't mean everybody's a safe person to be around, staying wary isn't the worst course of action - especially not on the internet - but always being afraid and paranoid isn't going to get you anywhere as well. Also we should always keep in mind that many men (even when they're on a rape fantasy site) might feel really offended when one suspects them of being a rapist. So fair's fair - I really don't think our members (at least most of them) aren't any danger to the public, let alone potential rapists. Maybe there are real rapists or maybe potential rapists lurking around, maybe some of them are even members but that's something we can't change. We're not doing backround checks on every member and guests, so we just have to live with that possibility, let's be real about that. If you feel endangered by that you should leave. And what's the trouble? IF somebody confessed to being a real rapist he'd be banned immediately without second thoughts, true or not. And if it wasn't true this person could only be considered really stupid. Next thing's this: Nobody told anybody to just go and meet people from the website, people you never met, people you don't really know. That decision is up to every single member to make for himself. And even if somebody told you to it'd still be your decision. So use your common sense! By the way: Rapists usually like porn - so of course some might be drawn to our movie collection - they're not really into stories, RP and posting on a board. They're into porn movies and pictures. Statistically rapists/potential rapists (who use the internet) prefer to hang out at places (forums or chatrooms) where they can approach easy prey (usually child's forums). __________________ The Life and Death of Sam Crow - How the Sons of Anarchy lost their way

04-26-2007, 12:18 PM	#23
sindyloo Privileged Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,178 Reputation: 34844	Really good points STERN dear!! Mostly rapists hang out where they think they will get victims and they are not so damn stupid as the people that go to porn sites and log on there!! Try this to see HOW WELL WATCHED YOU ARE!! Goggle your handle and click search you might be shocked at how much of you is out there and what you look for!? __________________ Tommy Loy, the cabin boy, The dirty little nipper, He filled his ass With broken glass And cirumcized the skipper!

04-26-2007, 12:21 PM	#24
sindyloo Privileged Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,178 Reputation: 34844	deleted wrong thread!! __________________ Tommy Loy, the cabin boy, The dirty little nipper, He filled his ass With broken glass And cirumcized the skipper! Last edited by sindyloo; 04-26-2007 at 12:23 PM. Reason: wrong thread

04-28-2007, 11:25 AM	#26
Tanya Privileged Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Australia Posts: 505 Reputation: 2134	Many guys who are into this fantasy hate women... I had a similar situation to that girl. I met a guy online and he bashed me up and fucked me hard enough to make me bleed and i went home on the train with a concussion and my clothes ripped up and people kept asking if i was ok Met other dodgy guys online too...there are many dodgy ugys out there __________________ When im good im very very good, but when im bad im better!

04-28-2007, 01:16 PM	#28
Tanya Privileged Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Australia Posts: 505 Reputation: 2134	I met somoene first online because i wanted to do the roleplay, then i went crazy fora few months and met guys i didnt know.... __________________ When im good im very very good, but when im bad im better!

04-27-2007, 10:21 AM	#25
DominUncle Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 128 Reputation: 103	Early on in my internet experiences I met a sweet young thing who told me a scary story. She was a sub, extremely so, and into more pain than I cared to administer. She was used to being left beaten and bruised after a session with someone she met irl after contacting him on line. But one time even her expectations were exceeded. She didn't mind so much that as soon as he got her alone in the seedy hotel room he punched her jaw hard enough to make her woozy. She didn't even really mind that he pulled he jeans down and took her butt roughly, although her preference was for protection when done by strangers. What surpassed her expectations that when he was done he left her hands and ankles tied and a plastic bag wrapped around her head before he left. She was smart enough to bite a hole in it and knock the phone off the bed so someone came to investigate. She was encouraged not to make any trouble and she probably wouldn't have reported it anyway - kind of embarrassing telling authorities why she was there. I suppose she could have been feeding me a line, but I never caught her in any other lies in the years that I knew her. I'm sure many of our members, especially female, have even more harrowing stories. So, yeah, it would be very dangerous to assume there are no real rapists here. I guess anyone with a desire for the things we talk about here needs to learn to protect themselves whenever meeting anyone, no matter where they first met or how "safe" the partner seems to be.

04-28-2007, 10:20 PM	#29
Andering REDDSON Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: R/Bâ€™s cyber-Auschwitz Posts: 609 Reputation: 1028	On this tangentâ€¦ Should you consider to actually meet ANYONE you know only from the internet, phone calls, etc, especially for an intense encounter (such as sex), you should probably arrange to meet them in a VERY PUBLIC place (such as a restaurant) where a great number of people would be nearby, AND NO ALCHOL IS PRESENT. (Ya, that means you canâ€™t meet for a beer the first time either.) Bring verifiable ID and a business card or something else with you vital info on it. Exchange that, then meet again a few days later for the real fun. If something should happen, thereâ€™s a real, verifiable trail to what the fuck happened to you.

04-29-2007, 02:14 AM	#30
tnc4fun Privileged Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Maryland, USA Posts: 203 Reputation: 453	You should also let someone else know that you're meeting someone. You should arrange to call that person at some predetermined point in the evening. Then let whoever you're meeting know that you're expected to call. Nothing's 100%, but a little caution is certainly worth it. __________________ The principles of lust are easy to understand, Do what you feel, feel until the end. The principles of lust are burned into your mind, Do what you want, do it until you find...love. Basic instincts, social life Paradoxes side by side Don't submit to stupid rules Be yourself and nobody's fool Don't accept average habits Open your heart and push the limits. The path of excess leads to the Tower of Wisdom. St. Michael Cretu Last edited by tnc4fun; 04-29-2007 at 02:16 AM.

04-29-2007, 08:15 AM	#31
Brutalessons Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 94 Reputation: 398	these are all good points, would anyone be interested in a thread discussing actual set up protocols? Kind of rules of thumbs to ensure the safety of ravisher/ravishee as well as ways to find and discuss the common threads of the participants fantasy so the play is able to proceed without inadvertently tripping unforseen limits or exceeding bounds? In an earlier posting I made a comment relating, in a general way to the age of participants and I was duly chastised, and rightly I suppose, due to such a broad generalization. If there is an interest in this topic, I will try to set up the thread. Ideas for an appropriate board section for this discussion? Edited to include link to thread: http://www.rapeboard.com/showthread.php?t=6180 Last edited by Brutalessons; 04-29-2007 at 12:03 PM.

04-29-2007, 09:02 AM	#32
Tanya Privileged Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Australia Posts: 505 Reputation: 2134	haha, i was very stupid..meeting a guy after chatting for an hour i admit it..perfect example of how NOT to meet a guy online __________________ When im good im very very good, but when im bad im better!