I made a disaster - Rape Board

italianguy · 12-12-2007, 07:54 PM

Hi all, I want to share with you this story.

Since I am a little masochist I asked a girl (she was a friend but I did not know her too much to ask what I asked) if she could beat me.

She said "no way, I would beat someone only if in danger", I replied "what kind of danger? Of life or maybe me touching your boobies will suffice?"

She said nothing. I said "the problem with this is that after that I go to the hospital I will go to prison". I said it joking, it was not a threat or something like that.

But she said seriously "If you rape me I will not report you".

I was astonished. I thank about it for a while and I said "are you asking to be raped?". She left the room and blocked me on msn that day. I never saw her again

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I really think that I misunderstood very badly

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It is one of the worst disaster I ever did, I liked her.

somedude · 12-13-2007, 02:19 AM

Yup you made one big disaster!

AWDracer · 12-13-2007, 03:30 AM

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Originally Posted by italianguy

Hi all, I want to share with you this story.

Since I am a little masochist I asked a girl (she was a friend but I did not know her too much to ask what I asked) if she could beat me.

She said "no way, I would beat someone only if in danger", I replied "what kind of danger? Of life or maybe me touching your boobies will suffice?"

She said nothing. I said "the problem with this is that after that I go to the hospital I will go to prison". I said it joking, it was not a threat or something like that.

But she said seriously "If you rape me I will not report you".

I was astonished. I thank about it for a while and I said "are you asking to be raped?". She left the room and blocked me on msn that day. I never saw her again

.

I really think that I misunderstood very badly

.

It is one of the worst disaster I ever did, I liked her.

I think it's not your fault but rather her's. She made a mistake by throwing that part about "not reporting a rape"; I think it was a slip of a tongue or something. Quite frankly I think she was embarassed with herself more than being with you. Honestly, how you said it could simply be a joke, yet she seriously meant it; to her, you might think she's a psycho. Know what I mean?

Ntense · 12-13-2007, 11:46 AM

I'd probably have stepped on my dick the same way you did, even with many years more experience. That situation would be damned hard to reply to. I've had pure vanilla ladies tease me similarly, and they got ALL bent out of shape when I agreed with 'em. A joking reply is safer than a serious one, something like "Your handcuffs or mine?" with a big grin. You can always backpedal and say you were joking if they take offense.

For future reference, try to avoid the 'R' word at all costs. It's one of the most emotionally charged words for the fantasy. Instead use 'rough play' or 'harder play', then ease into it once you're certain you both understand each other. 'Play' suggests something fun, and is a LOT less likely to trigger a cascade of negative emotions. Emphasize fantasy, not abuse.

I'm with AWDracer: she was probably *really* embarrassed that she let it slip out like that. If you're lucky, she may calm down in a week and talk to you.

Vika · 12-17-2007, 03:14 PM

I hope you won't loose a friend because of that... even if nothing will happen between you, good friends are always of a great value, especially when you know each others little secrets from now on...

and I completely agree with Ntense as well as with AWDracer

ego · 12-18-2007, 04:56 AM

How can you be friends with someone if everything you think is how you'll be inside her?

SirSinister · 12-18-2007, 06:50 AM

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Originally Posted by ego

How can you be friends with someone if everything you think is how you'll be inside her?

Its a bad idea to sleep with a really close friend... I know I have lost a few that way... I cant believe im saying this... but one night of pleasure aint worth the friendship... ok I feel dirty now...

Vika · 12-18-2007, 06:52 AM

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Originally Posted by ego

How can you be friends with someone if everything you think is how you'll be inside her?

Well, if that's the case... and you can't think anything other then that, then sure, later or not, but you will loose her/him...

But I can say that I have very close male friends, who are also handsome, inteligent, exactly my type of guys, but I can really say that I have nothing but friendship with them, and that's cool...

Zoidberg · 12-18-2007, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Vika

But I can say that I have very close male friends, who are also handsome, inteligent, exactly my type of guys, but I can really say that I have nothing but friendship with them

Seems they're really nice guys ... nice guys finish last

What would happen if they were not so 'nice' ? Any chance for them to be more than friends? Just curious, since called being nice by a hot chick is more insulting for me than being called names

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Originally Posted by Vika

and that's cool...

Your point of view ... ask them

Guess they might see it in another way

Vika · 12-18-2007, 04:05 PM

Not really Zoidberg...
in fact both of them have girlfriends, and both their girlfriends are cool... and they aren't a type of guys who finish last... they are succesful in what they're doing...
well, and there's nothing why we can't be friends...

and as my taste of guys, I like nice guys... well, don't know what is YOUR meaning of a nice guy, but I like them to be that way...

can't see a reason why we can't be friends

12-12-2007, 07:54 PM	#1
italianguy Banned Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 126 Reputation: -972	I made a disaster Hi all, I want to share with you this story. Since I am a little masochist I asked a girl (she was a friend but I did not know her too much to ask what I asked) if she could beat me. She said "no way, I would beat someone only if in danger", I replied "what kind of danger? Of life or maybe me touching your boobies will suffice?" She said nothing. I said "the problem with this is that after that I go to the hospital I will go to prison". I said it joking, it was not a threat or something like that. But she said seriously "If you rape me I will not report you". I was astonished. I thank about it for a while and I said "are you asking to be raped?". She left the room and blocked me on msn that day. I never saw her again . I really think that I misunderstood very badly . It is one of the worst disaster I ever did, I liked her.

12-13-2007, 02:19 AM	#2
somedude W.I.R. and Marshal Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Way out West!!!! Posts: 8,566 Reputation: 124981	Yup you made one big disaster! __________________ I'm a pervert and proud of it!

12-13-2007, 11:46 AM	#4
Ntense Privileged Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Texass Posts: 688 Reputation: 541	I'd probably have stepped on my dick the same way you did, even with many years more experience. That situation would be damned hard to reply to. I've had pure vanilla ladies tease me similarly, and they got ALL bent out of shape when I agreed with 'em. A joking reply is safer than a serious one, something like "Your handcuffs or mine?" with a big grin. You can always backpedal and say you were joking if they take offense. For future reference, try to avoid the 'R' word at all costs. It's one of the most emotionally charged words for the fantasy. Instead use 'rough play' or 'harder play', then ease into it once you're certain you both understand each other. 'Play' suggests something fun, and is a LOT less likely to trigger a cascade of negative emotions. Emphasize fantasy, not abuse. I'm with AWDracer: she was probably really embarrassed that she let it slip out like that. If you're lucky, she may calm down in a week and talk to you. __________________ Character is what you are in the dark... John Whorfin

12-17-2007, 03:14 PM	#5
Vika Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 104 Reputation: 1528	I hope you won't loose a friend because of that... even if nothing will happen between you, good friends are always of a great value, especially when you know each others little secrets from now on... and I completely agree with Ntense as well as with AWDracer __________________ "If you judge people, you have no time to love them" - Mother Teresa

12-18-2007, 04:56 AM	#6
ego the obscure Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 3,457 Reputation: 14892	How can you be friends with someone if everything you think is how you'll be inside her? __________________ ..lure them all into the abyss!

12-18-2007, 04:05 PM	#10
Vika Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 104 Reputation: 1528	Not really Zoidberg... in fact both of them have girlfriends, and both their girlfriends are cool... and they aren't a type of guys who finish last... they are succesful in what they're doing... well, and there's nothing why we can't be friends... and as my taste of guys, I like nice guys... well, don't know what is YOUR meaning of a nice guy, but I like them to be that way... can't see a reason why we can't be friends __________________ "If you judge people, you have no time to love them" - Mother Teresa