Sex - Rape Board

ChiTownHoney · 02-10-2009, 11:42 PM

I want to know how important sex is to you and how long in a relationship you are willing to wait for it?

I just got out of a relationship and I waited a year and a half before having sex with him.. Well.. that was ok, because it was my first time. But I cant imagine doing it with someone I wasnt in a serious committed relationship with. Do you think that will be a difficult thing for me as I date again? Am I just fucked?

sparks · 02-10-2009, 11:54 PM

it depends on the partner dear

and the situation or circumstance for that matter

If I were dating a new girl I would only wait a week or two or two dates if you please before I would lose interest and figure its not worth it

sex is very important not necessarily the quality or the quantity but the the way its offered or given in to that makes a score with me

thanks

sparks

gaggirl · 02-11-2009, 03:45 AM

I have been known to have sex within the first few dates.... (or first date

) sex has always been pretty important, and chemistry, so I

1. couldnt wait if I liked the guy because I was always so randy
2. wanted to make sure that we meshed well sexually. I couldnt wait for months and find out the sex wasnt working for us.. all that time...and then ot wanting to hurt his feelings and end up stuck.

But, each situation is different and theres nothing wrong with your approach. in fact I think its the sensible way to go these days!!

TwistedMaster · 02-11-2009, 05:48 AM

I could wait a little while... My first girl, we waited until our 1 year anniversary.... The following one waited a few months... one after that we did it the 2nd or 3rd data, haha. Really depends on the person.

shysnale · 02-14-2009, 05:42 AM

I don't know Chi, all I can tell you is what I hear from others, some say it can happen during the first week because the connection is really intense, some say they are just collecting what they call 'fucking friends' (they really put it that way, a lot of English words are taking place in the French language) and they just pay each others some politeness formulas like 'how have you been' before they start to fuck, and you can also find some people here who won't do it before marriage because of their religion.

crimsondesire · 02-14-2009, 10:17 AM

Hmmm. It isn't very important to me, It is the connection I am looking for in a person...just as long as the lust,is significant.

FuckingRotter · 02-14-2009, 11:59 AM

About a split second.

Hailo · 02-14-2009, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by schlampe_sfefanie

lol just as long as it takes to rip her clothes off?

Yup

FuckingRotter · 02-14-2009, 03:50 PM

No, about as long as it takes to look and make up my mind.

Hailo · 02-15-2009, 07:07 AM

Sex used to be something that was very important and meant that i would wait till the moment was right.

Years later i realised that it wasn't as special as i thought. Sex was and is just sex. It's not that personal anymore, where two people share something intimate. I thought you had to love somebody before you could have sex with someone but the past couple of years i realised that love is not the factor to have sex with someone.

Maybe its the thought that i am worthless, therefore i don't mean much to anyone. I just dunno. I'm cool though and hope ths hasn't brought a downer as it's just my opinion.

pervipete · 02-15-2009, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by littlemissRotter

Maybe its the thought that i am worthless, therefore i don't mean much to anyone. I just dunno. I'm cool though and hope ths hasn't brought a downer as it's just my opinion.

missy I can think of a lot of things that you are, and worthless ain't one of them.

AWDracer · 02-15-2009, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by ChiTownHoney

I want to know how important sex is to you and how long in a relationship you are willing to wait for it?

I just got out of a relationship and I waited a year and a half before having sex with him.. Well.. that was ok, because it was my first time. But I cant imagine doing it with someone I wasnt in a serious committed relationship with. Do you think that will be a difficult thing for me as I date again? Am I just fucked?

I really like your topics Chi, FTR because they demonstrate that there are questions among everyone's minds about what they "should" do.

You're not "fucked" because guys don't tend to care who you "fucked" with unless it's a really high number (i.e. high number of guys)

I am actually neutral on the subject of sex. In general, you should do it with someone you really like in a DEEP RELATIONSHIP. It makes it that much more special; you get to do something that others won't get to do.

I personally think sex before marriage as a religion is kind of silly. It's not practical. What's wrong with doing it with your long-time boyfriend? (i.e. 3-4 years+). "Going out" and "watching movies" gets old after the first year or so

Sex is a normal process and should not be confused with "immorality" because the body requires exercise.

But if someone's not ready for sex, they should not do it. The reason is, and this applies more for females, it's harder for them; they figure out whether or not they should have or should not have done anything etc.

But since I'm a little boy and don't know shit about society, you can take all this with a grain of salt.

AWDracer · 02-15-2009, 02:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by littlemissRotter

Sex used to be something that was very important and meant that i would wait till the moment was right.

Years later i realised that it wasn't as special as i thought. Sex was and is just sex. It's not that personal anymore, where two people share something intimate. I thought you had to love somebody before you could have sex with someone but the past couple of years i realised that love is not the factor to have sex with someone.

Maybe its the thought that i am worthless, therefore i don't mean much to anyone. I just dunno. I'm cool though and hope ths hasn't brought a downer as it's just my opinion.

Don't call yourself worthless.

Phantom taught me this - if you think you are, then you are.

I told him I thought I was an idiot, and he said he was wrong for thinking "I wasn't an idiot.", according to myself.

And besides, women who degrade themselves into being worse individuals (regarding the sluts) just make the entire gender look bad.

Crotch_Ripper · 02-15-2009, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by schlampe_sfefanie

lol just as long as it takes to rip her clothes off?

Thats a great sex meter in my book, and a bonus if there in nylons.

Hailo · 02-16-2009, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by AWDracer

And besides, women who degrade themselves into being worse individuals (regarding the sluts) just make the entire gender look bad.

Thanks AW, i did agree to almost everything you said apart from the last part. I am on rapeboard for many reasons. I love it here, i can be myself. If i chose to say i feel worthless, then please do not put the onus of the entire gender on my shoulders and make me feel bad.

I know thats not your intention and i know all you were doing was being kind but right now i'm in a bad way. And i feel worthless and therefore shared that feeling here. In a good way, i feel good for sharing this because when i'm in my day to day routine i can't say stuff like this. I'm supposed to be the funny one that can handle everything. In a bad way, i know it was selfish of me to say what i said, as it does make people feel uncomfortable and the cynics to say 'o here goes that sympathy card'. Which was never my intention.

Thank you AW for caring though, it is appreciated.

ChiTownHoney · 02-16-2009, 11:29 PM

I think I agree with Parisa, I want to wait untill I find THE ONE before I have sex again. Unfortunately, I think the guys today are so spoiled that they actually expect sex after a few dates or a few weeks and thats a no-no to me. I dont believe in that. I think that if a guy likes me and truly wants to be with me, he will prove himself before I please him in bed.

02-10-2009, 11:42 PM	#1
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	Sex I want to know how important sex is to you and how long in a relationship you are willing to wait for it? I just got out of a relationship and I waited a year and a half before having sex with him.. Well.. that was ok, because it was my first time. But I cant imagine doing it with someone I wasnt in a serious committed relationship with. Do you think that will be a difficult thing for me as I date again? Am I just fucked? Last edited by ChiTownHoney; 02-10-2009 at 11:57 PM.

02-11-2009, 05:48 AM	#4
TwistedMaster Privileged Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 955 Reputation: 4707	I could wait a little while... My first girl, we waited until our 1 year anniversary.... The following one waited a few months... one after that we did it the 2nd or 3rd data, haha. Really depends on the person. __________________ You're a gift to me, and I always play with my presents...

02-14-2009, 10:17 AM	#6
crimsondesire Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 382 Reputation: 7970	Hmmm. It isn't very important to me, It is the connection I am looking for in a person...just as long as the lust,is significant. __________________ Nails tear at raw flesh,cutting deep, tossing and turning, quivering with delight as I weep. Eyes wide open and mouth taped shut breathing barely, hands tied up. A loving heart completly ravished, a home for two,taught to share. Blood runs thick on skin so pale and just like my soul,body bare. Tears are dry, mascara stale, My twisted fairy tale.

02-14-2009, 11:59 AM	#7
FuckingRotter The Fist of Fury. Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Entering the.... Posts: 9,649 Reputation: 118903	About a split second. __________________ Fist is a four letter word. So is fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, fist fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, and, well you get the fist-fucking picture.... THE WESTCOUNTRY SHALL RISE AGAIN! Yay! It's pink! Don't think.... FEEL! We're Englishmen, and we came here, to rape your women and drink your beer. I went back in time and voted for Hitler. Pouring oil on troubled waters since 2008. Then lighting a fucking match.

02-14-2009, 03:50 PM	#9
FuckingRotter The Fist of Fury. Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Entering the.... Posts: 9,649 Reputation: 118903	No, about as long as it takes to look and make up my mind. __________________ Fist is a four letter word. So is fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, fist fist, fist, fist, fist, fist, and, well you get the fist-fucking picture.... THE WESTCOUNTRY SHALL RISE AGAIN! Yay! It's pink! Don't think.... FEEL! We're Englishmen, and we came here, to rape your women and drink your beer. I went back in time and voted for Hitler. Pouring oil on troubled waters since 2008. Then lighting a fucking match.

02-10-2009, 11:54 PM	#2
sparks Banned Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Saturns rings Posts: 496 Reputation: 17352	it depends on the partner dear and the situation or circumstance for that matter If I were dating a new girl I would only wait a week or two or two dates if you please before I would lose interest and figure its not worth it sex is very important not necessarily the quality or the quantity but the the way its offered or given in to that makes a score with me thanks sparks

02-11-2009, 03:45 AM	#3
gaggirl * yawn * Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 3,058 Reputation: 40178	I have been known to have sex within the first few dates.... (or first date ) sex has always been pretty important, and chemistry, so I 1. couldnt wait if I liked the guy because I was always so randy 2. wanted to make sure that we meshed well sexually. I couldnt wait for months and find out the sex wasnt working for us.. all that time...and then ot wanting to hurt his feelings and end up stuck. But, each situation is different and theres nothing wrong with your approach. in fact I think its the sensible way to go these days!!

02-14-2009, 05:42 AM	#5
shysnale Neurotic Escargot Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Poker Table Posts: 2,754 Reputation: 13179	I don't know Chi, all I can tell you is what I hear from others, some say it can happen during the first week because the connection is really intense, some say they are just collecting what they call 'fucking friends' (they really put it that way, a lot of English words are taking place in the French language) and they just pay each others some politeness formulas like 'how have you been' before they start to fuck, and you can also find some people here who won't do it before marriage because of their religion.

02-15-2009, 07:07 AM	#10
Hailo Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: London baby! Posts: 1,662 Reputation: 34134	Sex used to be something that was very important and meant that i would wait till the moment was right. Years later i realised that it wasn't as special as i thought. Sex was and is just sex. It's not that personal anymore, where two people share something intimate. I thought you had to love somebody before you could have sex with someone but the past couple of years i realised that love is not the factor to have sex with someone. Maybe its the thought that i am worthless, therefore i don't mean much to anyone. I just dunno. I'm cool though and hope ths hasn't brought a downer as it's just my opinion. __________________ It's finally....very very slowly...getting back to normal

02-16-2009, 11:29 PM	#16
ChiTownHoney Pa'l Mundo Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ObamaNation Posts: 2,460 Reputation: 33436	I think I agree with Parisa, I want to wait untill I find THE ONE before I have sex again. Unfortunately, I think the guys today are so spoiled that they actually expect sex after a few dates or a few weeks and thats a no-no to me. I dont believe in that. I think that if a guy likes me and truly wants to be with me, he will prove himself before I please him in bed.