Women & Alcohol - Rape Board

shysnale · 04-23-2008, 03:29 PM

Is it bad to ask a woman if she gets drunk often ?

I mean of course if she's a complete stranger then you really deserve a double slap in your face, but it happened to me to ask a woman I knew quite well if she was drinking a bit and she told me to go fuck myself.

It screwed my head for 4 fucking days.

I can understand the woman condition leads to some pride like chastity and for instance I have no problem to understand a woman would feel umconfortable if asked about her age because you women are constantly under the pressure of the multimedia trying to tell you what beauty is and how you should look like; but alcohol ?????? I really do not understand, again, I knew that girl well because she is the waitress of the bar I go everyday since years and I though some complicity was there and I could ask that but why the hell did she get so upset ?

Is there something with alcohool and being a woman ?

squidley · 04-23-2008, 03:46 PM

Shy, no one with an alcohol problem likes to admit it. Male or female, a drunk doesn't want someone to ask them if they have a problem with booze. If that is the issue, in time she will either come to terms with it and deal with it, or she'll just fall deeper into her own personal hell.

Also, if she isn't drinking too much, it may be something she felt you were implying - i.e. that she is a lush. That could piss her off too.

Don't sweat it, it's not just women.

The Squid

shysnale · 04-23-2008, 03:49 PM

Thanks a lot Squid

ego · 04-24-2008, 05:29 AM

Besides what Squid says, dont forget she's a woman. She can go upset to a reason that us humans do not consider reasonable!

Toes · 04-25-2008, 11:55 PM

Coughs loudly.... excuse me ego... did you just say woman are not human?

Devil made me ask that ego. I guess, because I'm a woman.

{hugs}

A sober one too.

ego · 04-27-2008, 04:22 PM

Ah, Toes ... no deals with devils!
When you'll learn that? He'll find a way to trick you!

*pases beer to Toes*

Wendel · 04-27-2008, 08:36 PM

Shy,

You also must realize that lots of people, men and woman (but mostly women

) do a lot of things but do not like to deal with the reality of those things.

She may drink up a storm and, in some cases, then jump into bed with any "cute" guy in the room, but in the light of the next day she does not want to be reminded of it or seemed to be judged because of it.

It is odd that in today's "loose" society, even the wildest girl in the office still wants to parade around in a chaste smock. She may brag to the ladies that she can get any guy she wants, but will recoil at the suggestion that many men a poor reputation makes.

The same is true for the lessor sins of drinking or mild drugs.

"I got so ripped this weekend" is a brag I hear Monday morning from both male and female co-workers. However, if I ask, "did you get ripped THIS weekend?" I would get a negative response.

It has to do with control and the lack of it. If you are a "vamp" you are in control. If you are a "slut" you are not. If you a one who "knows howe to party," control. If you are a drunk, no control.

Does that help?

donnalee_s · 06-02-2008, 07:28 PM

is not nice to ask if it's often
just take advantage of her when she is
like me now shysnale

RLA68 · 06-02-2008, 07:34 PM

It is also all in how you ask the question.

You can't ask someone even who you know if you drink a bit. You have to phrase it to be less threatening and not attacking her ego or whatever.

04-23-2008, 03:29 PM	#1
shysnale Neurotic Escargot Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Poker Table Posts: 2,754 Reputation: 13179	Women & Alcohol Is it bad to ask a woman if she gets drunk often ? I mean of course if she's a complete stranger then you really deserve a double slap in your face, but it happened to me to ask a woman I knew quite well if she was drinking a bit and she told me to go fuck myself. It screwed my head for 4 fucking days. I can understand the woman condition leads to some pride like chastity and for instance I have no problem to understand a woman would feel umconfortable if asked about her age because you women are constantly under the pressure of the multimedia trying to tell you what beauty is and how you should look like; but alcohol ?????? I really do not understand, again, I knew that girl well because she is the waitress of the bar I go everyday since years and I though some complicity was there and I could ask that but why the hell did she get so upset ? Is there something with alcohool and being a woman ?

04-24-2008, 05:29 AM	#4
ego the obscure Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 3,457 Reputation: 14892	Besides what Squid says, dont forget she's a woman. She can go upset to a reason that us humans do not consider reasonable! __________________ ..lure them all into the abyss!

04-27-2008, 04:22 PM	#6
ego the obscure Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 3,457 Reputation: 14892	Ah, Toes ... no deals with devils! When you'll learn that? He'll find a way to trick you! pases beer to Toes __________________ ..lure them all into the abyss!

04-23-2008, 03:46 PM	#2
squidley Privileged Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: USA Posts: 305 Reputation: 5650	Shy, no one with an alcohol problem likes to admit it. Male or female, a drunk doesn't want someone to ask them if they have a problem with booze. If that is the issue, in time she will either come to terms with it and deal with it, or she'll just fall deeper into her own personal hell. Also, if she isn't drinking too much, it may be something she felt you were implying - i.e. that she is a lush. That could piss her off too. Don't sweat it, it's not just women. The Squid

04-23-2008, 03:49 PM	#3
shysnale Neurotic Escargot Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Poker Table Posts: 2,754 Reputation: 13179	Thanks a lot Squid

04-25-2008, 11:55 PM	#5
Toes Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 43 Reputation: 776	Coughs loudly.... excuse me ego... did you just say woman are not human? Devil made me ask that ego. I guess, because I'm a woman. {hugs} A sober one too.

04-27-2008, 08:36 PM	#7
Wendel Privileged Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 279 Reputation: 3443	Shy, You also must realize that lots of people, men and woman (but mostly women ) do a lot of things but do not like to deal with the reality of those things. She may drink up a storm and, in some cases, then jump into bed with any "cute" guy in the room, but in the light of the next day she does not want to be reminded of it or seemed to be judged because of it. It is odd that in today's "loose" society, even the wildest girl in the office still wants to parade around in a chaste smock. She may brag to the ladies that she can get any guy she wants, but will recoil at the suggestion that many men a poor reputation makes. The same is true for the lessor sins of drinking or mild drugs. "I got so ripped this weekend" is a brag I hear Monday morning from both male and female co-workers. However, if I ask, "did you get ripped THIS weekend?" I would get a negative response. It has to do with control and the lack of it. If you are a "vamp" you are in control. If you are a "slut" you are not. If you a one who "knows howe to party," control. If you are a drunk, no control. Does that help?

06-02-2008, 07:28 PM	#8
donnalee_s almost gone Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 9,377 Reputation: 33747	is not nice to ask if it's often just take advantage of her when she is like me now shysnale

06-02-2008, 07:34 PM	#9
RLA68 Banned Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 1,663 Reputation: 13489	It is also all in how you ask the question. You can't ask someone even who you know if you drink a bit. You have to phrase it to be less threatening and not attacking her ego or whatever.