Trick for friendship - Rape Board

shysnale · 04-23-2008, 07:20 PM

Ladies,

Do you think your fantasy of being rape can include the pleasure of having your friends taking care of you after the crime is done ?

Could it be a way to get more affection from your peers ? A way to have your friends asking you questions they would never ask before and the pleasure to feel them at your service ? Do you think having your friends helping you getting over that sort of experience is a way to open unique channels of conversation ?

What kind of questions would you like to be asked by your friends ?

nekonoire · 04-24-2008, 08:51 AM

No, not at all.
I know from experience that it does "open unique channels of conversation" but in no way was that related to a fantasy.
I think that experience my have impacted on my "no" response, but also because I don't like to have attention paid to me. At all. I'd much rather be the one giving the attention, help and care.

ControlPhreak · 04-24-2008, 09:14 AM

I wouldn't think that aspect would come into the fantasy just because of the timing of events. I would think most women are umm uh "finished" by the time the rapist has had their way and left the scene. Then again I'm not a woman so what the hell do I know.

As always ShySnale, an interesting and thought provoking question.

Sternenlied · 04-24-2008, 02:44 PM

Hmm ...

Well, for one it is an unfortunate and sad but nonetheless true fact that some women make up stories of being raped to get attention, affection and in the end pity as well from friends, colleagues, whatever ...
Since women can relate to the horror of being raped (even if they never have been themselves) and men are intriguingly fascinated by it claiming to have been raped is a safe bet to get oneself in the centre of attention.
Although this kind of behaviour is rather loathesome in my personal opinion it still happens occasionally again and again.

Women who have been raped for real usually don't share the experience with male friends on that an intimate level, they mostly prefer talking about it (if at all) with their female friends (as well as female therapists eventually).

My friends taking care of me after a rape experience has still never been any part of my fantasies. The long-term aftermaths don't get that much focus.

Ragman · 04-24-2008, 07:59 PM

Forgive my lack of understanding, but if you made up a rape and told yoru friends about it as part of the "fantasy" wouldn't one risk being outed as a liar? Like if your friends tried to get you to tell the police? Wouldn't the liar risk a sort of "boy who cried wolf" Syndrome?

If A friend of mien told me that she had been raped and i found out it had been a lie, I might be a little more hesitant to believe her in the future.. hell I probably wouldn't hang out with her any more.. for fear of being implicated next time she decided to lie to Drudge up a little sympathy.

Sternenlied · 04-25-2008, 05:54 AM

Well ... if you put up a story about being raped and having rape fantasies together it might arise some suspicion eventually I assume (no matter if the rape is a lie or not).
However ... if one of your female friends opened up to you, telling you she has been raped ... would you openly accuse her of lying? Knowing - if she is telling the truth - what kind additional pain that might inflict on her?
I know many rape victims who never reported the incident to the police for various reasons. On our board here we also have rape victims who enjoy rape fantasies ... doesn't mean they're all liars.
I agree however, if a friend of mine told me she was raped (or he for that matter) and I found out it was a lie ... I'd be really angry as well as hurt.

shysnale · 04-25-2008, 07:51 AM

A great movie about Rape Fantasy and Rape Crime :

Gossip.

http://www.amazon.fr/Gossip-James-Marsden/dp/B000056BB4

ezzdx · 04-26-2008, 06:22 AM

If one of my web friends told me that she was raped before I will believe her if I feel that she isn't a lair,and the days would show if she was lying or not,the lies age isn't long.

but if she is one of my friends in the real life I will know if she was laying or not.

WillNeverLearn · 04-26-2008, 02:01 PM

Personally, once the rape is over, my fantasy is done. If any emotions or regret are attached, it's me dealing with all the fear/humiliation/pain he caused immediately after, by myself. It never involves anyone else because pity from others doesn't turn me on at all.

I think the women on this board have made it abundantly clear that they are into this type of fantasy, so lying about an attack wouldn't make much sense. You would just include the "sympathy" component in your fantasy here if that's what you're into.

Women who do make up stories, be it for revenge or a ploy for sympathy are horrible human beings. They cheapen the actual crime and put true victims in the position of having to "prove" they were in fact victimized. When someone claims rape, many question its validity because of women who do make up lies like this. Having to survive a crime of that nature is hard enough. Having a fellow woman put you in the position of then having to convince those you need help from that it actually happened and you're not fishing for attention is inhumane.

That said, defile me. I most certainly won't tell...[wink]

04-23-2008, 07:20 PM	#1
shysnale Neurotic Escargot Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Poker Table Posts: 2,754 Reputation: 13179	Trick for friendship Ladies, Do you think your fantasy of being rape can include the pleasure of having your friends taking care of you after the crime is done ? Could it be a way to get more affection from your peers ? A way to have your friends asking you questions they would never ask before and the pleasure to feel them at your service ? Do you think having your friends helping you getting over that sort of experience is a way to open unique channels of conversation ? What kind of questions would you like to be asked by your friends ?

04-24-2008, 09:14 AM	#3
ControlPhreak Privileged Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 361 Reputation: 499	I wouldn't think that aspect would come into the fantasy just because of the timing of events. I would think most women are umm uh "finished" by the time the rapist has had their way and left the scene. Then again I'm not a woman so what the hell do I know. As always ShySnale, an interesting and thought provoking question. __________________ _____________ _________ _____ Pleasure Junkie

04-24-2008, 02:44 PM	#4
Sternenlied Unknown Entity Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Niflheim Posts: 2,427 Reputation: 77819	Hmm ... Well, for one it is an unfortunate and sad but nonetheless true fact that some women make up stories of being raped to get attention, affection and in the end pity as well from friends, colleagues, whatever ... Since women can relate to the horror of being raped (even if they never have been themselves) and men are intriguingly fascinated by it claiming to have been raped is a safe bet to get oneself in the centre of attention. Although this kind of behaviour is rather loathesome in my personal opinion it still happens occasionally again and again. Women who have been raped for real usually don't share the experience with male friends on that an intimate level, they mostly prefer talking about it (if at all) with their female friends (as well as female therapists eventually). My friends taking care of me after a rape experience has still never been any part of my fantasies. The long-term aftermaths don't get that much focus. __________________ The Life and Death of Sam Crow - How the Sons of Anarchy lost their way

04-24-2008, 07:59 PM	#5
Ragman Privileged Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: an alley near you Posts: 2,226 Reputation: 5535	Forgive my lack of understanding, but if you made up a rape and told yoru friends about it as part of the "fantasy" wouldn't one risk being outed as a liar? Like if your friends tried to get you to tell the police? Wouldn't the liar risk a sort of "boy who cried wolf" Syndrome? If A friend of mien told me that she had been raped and i found out it had been a lie, I might be a little more hesitant to believe her in the future.. hell I probably wouldn't hang out with her any more.. for fear of being implicated next time she decided to lie to Drudge up a little sympathy. __________________ "Aww He's just a silly, dirty little man. What's to be afraid of ?" 2

04-25-2008, 05:54 AM	#6
Sternenlied Unknown Entity Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Niflheim Posts: 2,427 Reputation: 77819	Well ... if you put up a story about being raped and having rape fantasies together it might arise some suspicion eventually I assume (no matter if the rape is a lie or not). However ... if one of your female friends opened up to you, telling you she has been raped ... would you openly accuse her of lying? Knowing - if she is telling the truth - what kind additional pain that might inflict on her? I know many rape victims who never reported the incident to the police for various reasons. On our board here we also have rape victims who enjoy rape fantasies ... doesn't mean they're all liars. I agree however, if a friend of mine told me she was raped (or he for that matter) and I found out it was a lie ... I'd be really angry as well as hurt. __________________ The Life and Death of Sam Crow - How the Sons of Anarchy lost their way

04-24-2008, 08:51 AM	#2
nekonoire Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Australia Posts: 30 Reputation: 92	No, not at all. I know from experience that it does "open unique channels of conversation" but in no way was that related to a fantasy. I think that experience my have impacted on my "no" response, but also because I don't like to have attention paid to me. At all. I'd much rather be the one giving the attention, help and care.

04-25-2008, 07:51 AM	#7
shysnale Neurotic Escargot Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Poker Table Posts: 2,754 Reputation: 13179	A great movie about Rape Fantasy and Rape Crime : Gossip. http://www.amazon.fr/Gossip-James-Marsden/dp/B000056BB4

04-26-2008, 06:22 AM	#8
ezzdx Banned Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Egypt Posts: 1,197 Reputation: 759	If one of my web friends told me that she was raped before I will believe her if I feel that she isn't a lair,and the days would show if she was lying or not,the lies age isn't long. but if she is one of my friends in the real life I will know if she was laying or not.

04-26-2008, 02:01 PM	#9
WillNeverLearn Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: CT Posts: 20 Reputation: 82	Personally, once the rape is over, my fantasy is done. If any emotions or regret are attached, it's me dealing with all the fear/humiliation/pain he caused immediately after, by myself. It never involves anyone else because pity from others doesn't turn me on at all. I think the women on this board have made it abundantly clear that they are into this type of fantasy, so lying about an attack wouldn't make much sense. You would just include the "sympathy" component in your fantasy here if that's what you're into. Women who do make up stories, be it for revenge or a ploy for sympathy are horrible human beings. They cheapen the actual crime and put true victims in the position of having to "prove" they were in fact victimized. When someone claims rape, many question its validity because of women who do make up lies like this. Having to survive a crime of that nature is hard enough. Having a fellow woman put you in the position of then having to convince those you need help from that it actually happened and you're not fishing for attention is inhumane. That said, defile me. I most certainly won't tell...[wink] __________________ Pain lets you know you're alive.