Revealing Your Kink/Fetish - Rape Board

Sweetlust · 01-21-2014, 10:14 AM

If a person is entering a new relationship, or wants to liven up a current relationship, when is the best time to reveal to your partner that you have certain kinks or fetishes? Do you mention it on the third date, the wedding night, or on your 25th anniversary? Do you let them see your big old stash of fetish porn? Or do you casually introduce it while having sex (hey honey I think it'd be nice if I could tie you and flog you--or--pass the Grey Poupon, by the way, I adore cuckolding)? Do you just keep quiet about it?

How do you approach that idea that this is 'you' and what you like? Is it a deal breaker if they are not into whatever you're into, or they are totally vanilla?

insearchof33333 · 01-21-2014, 10:29 AM

I think you should pass them a menu of your kinks and say this is a Pre Fixe Menu - Appetizers are :being tied up, blindfolded, etc. Main course: is Threesome, full-on bondage, Rape in all holes,

and for Dessert? - there is Aftercare and tending to wounds

Ok that was my smart ass answer

Now for a more serious one.

I think you ask the person what they are into sexually after you date them for a while and get to know them. Ask them if they have ever fantasized about something beyond the norm and see what their response is. Ask them what is off limits, like we do here when we RP. Chances are they will respond by asking what you are into.

I would not dump your whole fetish list on them completely at once but gradually reveal your "must haves" to them before you even consider marriage. If they balk, give that marriage proposal a great deal of thought.

Trust me I tried the 25th Wedding Anniversary question and it met with ...you "must be joking".

Who knew missionary position was considered a fetish kink?

. Seriously though, Its way to late to really discuss this after marriage, as it is with any future goal in life.

FuckingRotter · 01-25-2014, 08:19 PM

I only look on fetish related websites, so it's not so much revealing that I'm a nasty, sadistic pervert that is a problem. Just how much of a nasty, sadistic pervert on the other hand, can put some girls off a bit.

If I were to meet a girl down the pub or something, I would be upfront about it. No point trying to explain when the police are kicking the door in, eh?

01-21-2014, 10:14 AM	#1
Sweetlust Privileged Member Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: USA Posts: 1,257 Reputation: 6543	Revealing Your Kink/Fetish If a person is entering a new relationship, or wants to liven up a current relationship, when is the best time to reveal to your partner that you have certain kinks or fetishes? Do you mention it on the third date, the wedding night, or on your 25th anniversary? Do you let them see your big old stash of fetish porn? Or do you casually introduce it while having sex (hey honey I think it'd be nice if I could tie you and flog you--or--pass the Grey Poupon, by the way, I adore cuckolding)? Do you just keep quiet about it? How do you approach that idea that this is 'you' and what you like? Is it a deal breaker if they are not into whatever you're into, or they are totally vanilla? Last edited by Sweetlust; 01-21-2014 at 04:34 PM.

01-25-2014, 08:19 PM	#3
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01-21-2014, 10:29 AM	#2
insearchof33333 Privileged Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Mid Atlantic Posts: 673 Reputation: 5382	I think you should pass them a menu of your kinks and say this is a Pre Fixe Menu - Appetizers are :being tied up, blindfolded, etc. Main course: is Threesome, full-on bondage, Rape in all holes, and for Dessert? - there is Aftercare and tending to wounds Ok that was my smart ass answer Now for a more serious one. I think you ask the person what they are into sexually after you date them for a while and get to know them. Ask them if they have ever fantasized about something beyond the norm and see what their response is. Ask them what is off limits, like we do here when we RP. Chances are they will respond by asking what you are into. I would not dump your whole fetish list on them completely at once but gradually reveal your "must haves" to them before you even consider marriage. If they balk, give that marriage proposal a great deal of thought. Trust me I tried the 25th Wedding Anniversary question and it met with ...you "must be joking". Who knew missionary position was considered a fetish kink? . Seriously though, Its way to late to really discuss this after marriage, as it is with any future goal in life.