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Originally Posted by Sierra
What empowered me was that I reclaimed my story by telling it.
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Psychologists call this “Mastery.” the doctor that introduced me to the term explained it with an example, so I don’t fully understand it myself; “In cases of child sexual abuse, we have them tell a story of the day it happened; It starts as the original story did, but then ends, rather than the sexual abuse, with them going to picnic in the park.” (Forgive that I didn’t exactly quote Major ESTEP precisely, but it was almost 6 years ago, and I didn’t exactly have a tape recorder.)
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Originally Posted by Sierra
Yes, I am aware that some people find the real rape thread arousing. I don't care.
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When I was getting my security guard license, the instructor, in very clear and unmistakable detail, explained that as a security guard, it is not my responsibility what someone else thinks; If they see the badge and the uniform and assume I’m a cop, that is their problem, not mine. I am under no obligation, unless specifically asked “¿Are you a cop?” to disabuse them of the notion, and even then I don’t have to answer honestly- I can legally answer “¿Well what do you think?” (I actually did that once, and when the stupid bitch said “no” my response was something along the lines of “no shit sherlocks.”)
Likewise, you are neither responsible for, nor in any way can control, other people’s response to your true story. There are people out there that find food sexually arousing (and I mean ANY food, not traditionally sexually-related foods, like oysters). There are people out there that find bulimia (their own, specifically) arousing- and I know of at least one person that thinks of sex, in any form, an absolute turn-off. (Neither, or so he claims, does he masturbate, watch porn, or engage in any form of sexual activity. He’s also a fag…)