I'd say generally it works best with
1) Someone you like and trust very much. This allows you to really let go and get into the fantasy without worrying about social judgement or getting into trouble.
2) Someone you don't know. This only works if you can somehow ensure that they aren't going to scam you, which is actually fairly doable. The nice thing here is that you don't care, and there's always a little bit of fear risk without much actual risk.
3) Someone you know and dislike. Tricky. Harder to protect yourself here. Can be done, but you would have to be in the right mood. If you are, oh my...
4) Someone you are meeting for the purpose. I think in some ways this is the hardest, because what you do know is that they claim to like the same thing, but you know nothing else. Still, like 2, it's possible.
I'd say in the end you have to either trust them or be able to arrange things to that it doesn't matter. If you can get past that and you're actually attracted to them, it's just fantasy. That's the point.
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