| davedave |
10-15-2018 01:21 PM |
what make it special for me
For me "what makes it just right" is can the person I am with sell out to the role. A wise man once said the difference between an actor and a pretender is when you can no longer tell if it is real or fake. It is very hard to do and to find someone that can do so as well. In order to do so both characters require and elaborate back story that they can draw on when thrown a curve ball. Both actor should have a well established safe word system - I like verbal - and use safeword as a safeword ... physical three solid fast taps anywhere on the body ... shaking head no and not stopping only if hands and mouth are restrained. To truly sell out there must be absolute trust that any safe word stops action immediately. That way I can use a hard limit say no anal sex to "coerce" a soft limit say no cum in mouth or no shallow. Without the trust factor the moment the tip of my dick touches her anus she freaks and calls safeword. With trust the tip of my dick can touch the anus and I can say "either you take my sweet cum in your mouth or you're gonna leave here with a bloody asshole" I can even move forward a little and press a little harder as long as she knows I will not try to break a hard limit or that even if I do try the second she says safeword it is over and everything stops. "decide bitch - it's your ass or your mouth!" "ok, ok you can cum in my mouth". Additionally, I like two other moderation words 1) that tells me in character that I am being too soft - generally I like "fuck you, you pussy" to let me know I am being too gentle and that I can be rougher - likewise "your such a fucking weakling" would tell her she can be rougher ... And "please I can't take anymore" to let me know I need to be more gentle. Mine would be "stop fighting" ... honestly there is nothing wrong with walking through a scene before it is played out ... good actors sit at a table and run lines with each other I like that too. She can offer suggestions as to where she would like it to go and you can give her pointers as to how you would like see it play out. BUT try to give yourself 3 or 4 options, so where it goes will be spontaneous and do not be afraid to deviate and improvise as the scene unfolds in real time. I typically do this with clothes on, so the scene is special or we sit and just talk it through. And before that we generally talk about our characters and the various back stories and things which can draw on real life or be totally made up.
The role play that has been the most intense for me to date has been a young lady that came to my boarding school for bad or disobedient girls. Even through she was 18 (real world she was 25 but that didn't make any sense for a 25 year old to be in a boarding school so...) she had two options - go to prison if she failed my program or left for any reason and there because of her past gang days she would likely be killed. She was a mouthy bratty teen that needed to learn to respect authority and be compliance even in situations that she did not agree with. nothing in her upbringing taught her any limits - she had an elaborate back story, of gang violence, prostitution, abuse and false accusations all of which could be used to convince her to comply with any request no matter how ridiculous. And, each request I might ask of her had to have a real logical and explainable reason behind it. Example, "please remove your clothing we need to check for tattoo's, piercings and other things that might be an issue here." on and on it goes but no matter which way the story turns we each have a history to pull on. Additionally, try not to play a character but BE the character. If someone goes "off script" or throws something new into the mix react to it as you would normally react to it - if your reaction would be to throw some sass then sass. throw a punch or fight back then do so. Sometimes the most real we can be is when we explore our true selves. Many of us gravitate to this because of a past real issue and the control gives power and healing - don't be afraid to lose yourself in order to find out how strong you really are.
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